I’ll admit, I am a very spoiled wife. I’ve never taken out the trash (I barely know when trash day is). I don’t know how to do any car maintenance except put gas in my tank. I can’t tell you the last time I changed a light bulb. I don’t recall a time that I shoveled snow or mowed the lawn. You get it. I’m spoiled. It probably sounds like some old school gender roles stuff, but it works for my marriage.
Fast-forward to this week. It snowed twice in sunny Philadelphia. I’m talking enough snow to cover the car. My husband and I were rushing around trying to get the kids off to school and make it to work on time. He normally does morning drop offs, so he and the kids left before me. Thinking that my car would be warmed up, cleaned off, and ready to go, I proceed to our driveway. I was in for a rude awakening. My car hadn’t been touched. It was then that I realized that I, Shanae Johnson, would have to physically clean my car of all by myself! I went to my trunk and got the brush thingy out and started to brush off the snow and scrape off the ice. I was freezing and pouting like a baby. How could Mr. Johnson do me like this? Why would he not clean off my car for me? He couldn’t have been that much in a rush. I was in my feelings for like five minutes, no lie. And I was dead serious.
I started to call my husband to fuss and whine, but then I heard the voice of Judge Lynn Toller. You know, the judge from Divorce Court. I remember her laying this one wife out for complaining about stupid stuff when she had a great man. I also remember fussing the wife out myself through the tv as I watched. It was at that moment that I realized that I was that spoiled and ungrateful wife willing to start an argument about something silly. I am physically capable of cleaning snow off my car. I just didn’t feel like it. But again, it is my car, so its my responsibility right. My husband was just doing it normally as a courtesy because he knows his wife doesn’t want to do anything that will cause a nail to break. So what he forgot this time, or simply just didn’t do it. Is it really worth me shaking up the house about. I really had to check myself.
A lot of times, us wives have to learn not to sweat the small stuff. Do I want to take out the trash? Hell no! But can I? Yes. I had to open my eyes and see that I have a great man. One that loves me with every fiber of his being and one that will go to the moon and back just to see me smile. So in conclusion, I ain’t mad no more about cleaning the snow off the car. I’m actually grateful that I’ll be married 7 years in May and this was the first time I had to do it. wink emoticon #WifeDiaries